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SUPPOSE YOU’VE ALREADY ACHIEVED EVERYTHING

Part 2

What Comes Next?

Naomi Sherman

About This Book

This book continues a reflection on life after a dream comes true. Through a dialogue and ten short stories, it explores not how to achieve success, but what happens once a goal has been reached: which desires were truly our own, which grew out of other people’s expectations, and how we can preserve our right to choose our own lives.

Prologue. The Question That Didn’t Receive an Immediate Answer

“Can I ask you a strange question?” I asked someone close to me.

“That depends on the question.”

“Imagine that tomorrow you wake up as the person you’ve always dreamed of becoming. Not someone who is still preparing, learning, putting things off, and hoping. You’ve already become that person. Everything has worked out. The version of you that you imagined back in childhood is now living your life. What will you do?”

He smiled as though the answer were obvious. Then he looked away. A few seconds passed. He began talking about money, travel, freedom, and how he could finally get a full night’s sleep. Then he fell silent.

“Wait,” he said. “I’ve never thought about that.”

That was what surprised me. We can spend years talking about what we want: a house by the sea, work we love, recognition, peace, a close-knit family, our own business, the ability to stop proving ourselves to everyone. We know how to describe the path to what we want in great detail. But remove the path in your imagination and leave only the result, and suddenly your mind goes blank.

The first book in this story asked what the day after a dream comes true might look like. This book begins where that question stops being a beautiful thought and becomes a personal challenge. There is no need to prove again that dreams matter. What matters is looking at what we actually intend to do with the life we have spent so long asking the future to give us.

I spoke with ten people who shared their desires and discovered that the simple question “What comes next?” demanded much more of them than they had expected. These are composite stories built around recognizable life situations, not a statistical survey. The names do not matter. What matters is how familiar their words may sound.

Perhaps you, too, won’t answer immediately. That doesn’t mean you have no dream. Perhaps you have spent so long imagining how to reach it that you have barely imagined how to live inside it.

1. Ten People and One Silence

I asked the question in different ways, but its meaning stayed the same: if tomorrow you woke up as the version of yourself you had dreamed of becoming since childhood, what would you do on your first day? Not how you achieved it. Not who helped. Not how many years it took. It has all happened already. Morning has arrived. What now?

The first woman I spoke with wanted financial independence. She imagined a day when she could pay her bills without anxiety and would no longer have to ask her partner for help. When I asked about her first morning, she replied, “I’d probably check my banking app.” Then she laughed. Even in her imagined world of freedom, her first reaction was to check whether that freedom had disappeared.

The second person dreamed of becoming well known in his profession. He imagined a stage, interviews, and recognition from colleagues. When I asked what he would do after his name became known, he said, “I’d probably think about how not to lose it.” The summit did not look to him like a place where he could stop; it looked like a new height from which he could fall.

The third woman wanted a family and a home where someone would always be waiting for her. Her answer was unexpected: “I’d make breakfast. Just breakfast.” She wasn’t describing a wedding day or a perfect photograph, but an ordinary morning. And yet she asked, “What if an ordinary morning becomes boring one day? How will I know I didn’t make a mistake?”

The fourth person dreamed of leaving his hometown. He listed practical tasks: find an apartment, figure out transportation, buy groceries. Then he admitted that he had never once imagined the second week. He knew where he wanted to leave, but not what he wanted to arrive at.

The fifth woman wanted people to finally respect her. “I’d stop explaining to everyone why I’m worth something,” she said. Then she added, “But I don’t know what I’d fill my day with if I no longer had to prove it.”

The sixth person dreamed of starting his own business. His imagination was full of a logo, a first office, and a message announcing a big profit. Asked what he would do the following morning, he answered, “Check sales.” He dreamed of freedom but had not imagined how to protect it from work that could consume every hour.

The seventh woman wanted to become more beautiful and confident. She spoke about her appearance as if the right change would make awkwardness, jealousy, and the fear of rejection disappear. “I’d probably go somewhere for the first time without spending two hours choosing an outfit,” she said. Then she paused. “Although maybe I’d find something else to fix about myself.”

The eighth person dreamed of peace. He wanted to wake up without urgent messages and stop feeling that everything would fall apart if he paused for a minute. But when I asked him to imagine a day without anxiety-driven tasks, he couldn’t name an activity he would choose simply because he enjoyed it.

The ninth woman wanted her parents to be proud of her. She had built a career that she considered proof of her own worth. “I’d call them,” she answered. “And then?” She was silent for a long time. Her dream was tied to someone else’s reaction, and without that reaction, very little personal desire remained in it.

The tenth person wanted to start his life over. He imagined himself as brave, free, and completely different. “I’d finally stop being who I used to be,” he said. But he couldn’t explain what he would want to do instead.

Ten different stories: money, love, recognition, relocation, appearance, business, peace, family approval, a new life. None of these people was foolish or insufficiently ambitious. They had simply grown used to measuring a dream by the distance between themselves and it. Once that distance disappeared, they had to think about life itself for the first time.

If your mental answer right now is “I’d rest,” don’t rush. Rest from what? For a week, a month, a year? What would your mornings look like once the exhaustion was gone? If your answer is “I’d travel,” ask yourself what you would want to see after your tenth trip. This isn’t an attempt to devalue your desires. It is an invitation to look beyond the first picture.

Practice after Chapter 2. Bring the Present Back

Write down three phrases you most often use to postpone life until the future. Beside each one, note what you are putting off: rest, a conversation, pleasure, a decision, meeting someone, or creating something. Choose one action you can safely take this week without waiting for a major result. Let it be small but real. At the end of the week, ask yourself not “Has everything become perfect?” but “What changed when I stopped waiting for permission?”

2. A Dream as an Exit Pass from the Present

Sometimes we need a dream not only for what it promises. It helps us endure the present. “When I lose weight,” “when I earn more,” “when I get promoted,” “when he changes,” “when the children grow up”—these phrases can support us. They give us the feeling that a difficult period will not last forever. But, almost without noticing, the future becomes the only place where we allow ourselves to live.

A person can say they want freedom and build a schedule every day that contains not a single free hour. They can dream of closeness and become so occupied with finding the perfect partner that they fail to notice the people with whom they could already build honest relationships. They can want to create something and wait for ideal conditions, using the absence of those conditions as proof that now is not the time.

A dream becomes dangerous not because it is big. It becomes dangerous when it is used as an exit pass from the present: until the goal is achieved, you don’t have to choose, rest, tell the truth, try, or feel joy. In such a system, even success does not guarantee freedom. You simply receive a new goal and a new permission slip to postpone your life.

Imagine climbing a staircase for a long time, certain that a room at the top will make everything clear. You don’t look at the steps because you are in a hurry. When you reach the landing, there is a door. Beyond it, there is no ready-made script—only a space in which you must choose again. The disappointment is intense: you thought the journey would end along with the uncertainty.

But no goal can make every decision for you. Money will not determine whom you feel close to. Beauty will not teach you to ask for help. A job title will not tell you when you have worked enough. Moving will not automatically give you a sense of belonging. Even love will not free you from the need to talk, compromise, and take responsibility for your actions.

The point is not to stop dreaming. The point is to stop using a dream as an excuse for not having your own life now.

Practice after Chapter 3. Define Success

Write your own definition of success in three sentences. Don’t use the words “happiness,” “success,” or “freedom” without explaining them concretely. What does an ordinary day look like for someone who lives according to your definition? What do they do? What do they no longer tolerate? How do they use their time? Then reread what you wrote and mark the parts that would still matter even without an audience or praise.

3. What Exactly Do You Call Success?

The word “success” sounds so confident, as though it had one universal definition. In practice, one person calls success being able to shop without counting every dollar, another calls it having control over their time, a third calls it fame, and a fourth calls it a quiet home. The problem begins when we take someone else’s definition and try to live it as our own.

As children, we learn what earns us praise: grades, independence, appearance, obedience, victories, being useful. Gradually, praise turns into an invisible instruction: be the kind of person people notice; achieve things that make others proud; don’t make mistakes or you’ll disappoint them. Later, we may call this instruction ambition, even though an old desire to earn approval lives inside it.

This doesn’t mean every desire for recognition comes from someone else. It is natural to want our work to be noticed, our talent valued, and our contribution to matter. But recognition becomes an unreliable support when our sense of worth disappears without it. Each victory has a short effect: first comes relief, then we look for the next person who will confirm that we are still worthy.

Try finishing this sentence without dressing it up: “I’ll know I’ve succeeded when…” Don’t write what sounds right. Write a specific event. Then ask yourself: Who will be the first to know? Whose opinion matters most to me? If no one sees the result, will it still be valuable?

If your answer changes depending on who is watching, that is not a reason to blame yourself. It is information. Perhaps part of the goal belongs to you, while another part grew out of other people’s expectations. You don’t have to throw away the whole dream. You only need to separate your own desire from the demand to be worthy in other people’s eyes.

Success can be visible or quiet. You can see it on a stage, or you can find it in the fact that you are no longer afraid to open your banking app, can say “no” without lengthy explanations, or come home to a place where you don’t have to play a role. The important thing is that your measure of life does not change every time someone else raises the bar.